Rss Feed
Tweeter button
Facebook button
Technorati button
Reddit button
Myspace button
Linkedin button
Webonews button
Delicious button
Digg button
Flickr button
Stumbleupon button
Newsvine button

WELCOME TO DR. NEILL NEILL’S PRACTICAL PSYCHOLOGY

Here you will find hundreds of the practical insights I have gleaned from my years of professional and private life. As a columnist, I’ve written many articles about relationships, including codependency and addiction. But I’ve also shared insights into happiness, self-growth, mental health, trauma, grieving and other life issues. Just click on a category to the left.

CONSULTATION: If you need to discuss an issue, I am available for consultation via Skype or telephone. Often one consult is enough to gain some clarity about your next steps. CLICK HERE for more information about process and costs. I do read all your comments, but with over 50,000 visits a month, I’m sorry it is no longer possible for me to give a written reply to the personal questions you leave. (Other readers, however, often do respond.)

VN:F [1.9.17_1161]
Rating: 8.8/10 (10 votes cast)
VN:F [1.9.17_1161]
Rating: +1 (from 1 vote)

Take Charge of Your Life

Taking ChargeMy friend Dee was recovering from breast cancer and, to her horror, she discovered there were no hospice services in her region. So she organized a hospice Society, which created a hospice facility.

Five years later Dee had a recurrence of cancer and was failing. I mumbled something about dying of cancer and she retorted, “I’m not dying of cancer; I’m living with cancer.” She was saying that while cancer may be a fact of her life, she is in charge of living her life…until it’s over. She died a few weeks later… Continue Reading »Take Charge of Your Life

VN:F [1.9.17_1161]
Rating: 9.0/10 (3 votes cast)
VN:F [1.9.17_1161]
Rating: +2 (from 2 votes)

Stroke: A Progress Report from Dr. Neill Neill

April 17, 2012

Thank you, Luanna, for letting my readers know about what I’m dealing with in my life. Actually, it isn’t just me alone. It’s my extended family, friends and clients who are dealing with my stroke as well.

When Luanna contacted you three weeks ago (see below), I was in the hospital. Now I am at home, but return to the hospital every day for 2 to 3 hours of outpatient intensive rehabilitation. I now get around with a walker, can dress myself and climb stairs. It might not seem like much, but considering that on February 29th, the right side of my body was completely paralyzed, the progress I’ve made is huge… Continue Reading »Stroke: A Progress Report from Dr. Neill Neill

VN:F [1.9.17_1161]
Rating: 10.0/10 (1 vote cast)
VN:F [1.9.17_1161]
Rating: +1 (from 1 vote)

New (or Old) Relationship? Watch your language!

ConnectingShortly after meeting, Barb says to Jane, “My husband doesn’t talk to me,” and Jane replies, “Neither does mine.” The two of them have an instant bond.

A man and woman start chatting one day in the coffee room at the place they both work. They quickly discover that they both hate their jobs. Their instant connection blossoms into an intimate relationship. Continue Reading »New (or Old) Relationship? Watch your language!

VN:F [1.9.17_1161]
Rating: 9.7/10 (3 votes cast)
VN:F [1.9.17_1161]
Rating: +2 (from 2 votes)

Learning to Deal with Adult Alcoholic Children

Alcoholic adult childIn one of my articles I talked about how addiction and codependency can be two sides of the same coin. That generated yet another request for an article about dealing with alcoholic children.

It’s a difficult assignment for me because the psychologist who helps others with relationships tainted by any of a myriad of issues, including addiction, codependency and dealing with adult children and parents who abuse alcohol, has himself fallen into many of the same traps. Continue Reading »Learning to Deal with Adult Alcoholic Children

VN:F [1.9.17_1161]
Rating: 9.3/10 (4 votes cast)
VN:F [1.9.17_1161]
Rating: +1 (from 3 votes)

Alcohol Abuse and Codependency: Two Sides of the Same Coin

addiction / codependencyAs my sister-in-law’s ex-military husband sank into his confined world of alcoholism, she refused to shrink along with him. She was very clear she would not go through another divorce. Instead, she vigorously pursued her garden, bridge and investment club activities. She maintained a strong bond with her middle-aged daughter and many friends…until cancer ended her life.

Her approach was not typical. To her credit, she chose to look after herself, rather than adjusting her behavior to keep the marriage in balance. Continue Reading »Alcohol Abuse and Codependency: Two Sides of the Same Coin

VN:F [1.9.17_1161]
Rating: 8.2/10 (5 votes cast)
VN:F [1.9.17_1161]
Rating: +3 (from 3 votes)
Get Adobe Flash player