When Is a Marriage Beyond Help?


One time in a land far away a client asked me if I could help her save her 15-year marriage. Her husband was threatening to leave her, was stonewalling and was generally emotionally cold, but she said he was willing to see me. I worked with him for several months, and they stayed together.

However, one day a year later as I was preparing to leave the community, she approached me, very troubled. This is what she said: “You’ve turned my husband into everything I ever wanted in a husband. But I don’t want to be with him.”

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Effective Communication: Listening Vs. Complying

Lately you’ve been finding yourself stewing about how you’ll handle your last child leaving home, and you need to talk with your husband about it. You start to tell him what you’re feeling, but his eyes glaze over and he tunes you out.

You wonder how it came to this and if it’s fixable? You used to be able to talk about anything.

Just to be clear, I should point out that I hear this almost as often from men as from women. Wives tune out their husbands too…

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