After Drug or Alcohol Rehab: Four Relapse Warning Signs
Awareness is key to building a healthy, meaningful and fulfilling life after rehab. You need to be alert and aware to spot the early warning signs of relapse into addiction and take whatever action is necessary to maintain your recovery. Watch for what I like to call, "The Big Four Relapse Warning Signs."
If any one of them sneaks back into your life, take it as a warning to redouble your resolve to stay the course of your recovery.
- Lying. A principal warning sign of relapse is lying to yourself or to others. Remember how you lied when you were a functioning alcoholic: minimizations, distortions of truth, little white lies, boldface lies and denial. Sometimes you even believed your own hype.
So, if you are aware you have told your partner a little white lie, recognize it as a slip and take action immediately to correct the situation.
- Blaming. When you blame anyone else for anything, remember that by doing so you are making yourself a victim. And if you are a victim, who can blame you for relapsing into drinking or drugging?
So recognize you are on the slippery slope to victimhood and relapse if you notice yourself laying blame rather than taking responsibility.
- Shame. For men there is often shame around not being able to make your partner happy. If you find yourself slipping into these feelings of shame, remind yourself that you are to respect, love and care for your wife. Her happiness or unhappiness comes from within her.
- Euphoria. You are on top of the world and things couldn't be better. Euphoria often makes a subtle shift into feeling invulnerable. And if you are invulnerable, you could drink or drug or have an affair without consequences. The euphoria of success has been the downfall of many a politician and business leader.
So pay attention; you are a human being and therefore always vulnerable. If you find yourself at the pinnacle of success, remember what Buckminster Fuller said: "If you do a good job the great spirit will give you a bigger job."
It's up to you to make your life after rehab a magnificent one!
Dr. Neill Neill, Registered Psychologist and Diplomate, Comprehensive Energy Psychology, maintains an active psychology and life-coaching practice on Vancouver Island, BC, Canada. He is a member of the treatment team at Sunshine Coast Health Centre, an alcohol and drug treatment center for men. His goal is to help you to help yourself to a better life. http://www.neillneill.com
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Natalie @ 9:55 am
I was trying to figure out why I want to drink soooo bad so I was researching to why people relapse. I have been in recovery from my meth addiction for 2 years now and all long to be "normal." I want to go out and drink with buddies from work, I want to go out dancing at the club and not have a care in the wworld. So I came accross this page and it has helped. Thanks!
Donna Adams @ 1:22 pm
My husband left me after 31 years of marriage. Drank, said it was my fault, started verbally abusing me and shoving me up against the wall. We have 4 children and grand children. My husband is a pharmacist and left for a tech. and they have been married now for about 8 years. He moved in with her and married her after a couple of years. This is her 5th marriage. She is also a drinker and loves men. She did not have much money, but he takes her on trips, and put thousands of dollars in her house of which he never did either with me and I paid for his schooling.
One of our daughters was sick all of her life with a brain tumor. She died at age 33 (1 1/2 yrs ago). When my husband left home he never came to see her. He said as long as she lived in my house he would not see her. I took care of her for those last 10 years by myself, and cared for her basically her whole life. He did visit her in the hospital and did come to the funeral. At times I wonder how I survived those years with him, but I hope it made me stronger. I did take him to court of which I am blessed, and have been a private investigator for about 8 years now.
I hate the drinking. I never want any part of it again. Happy to be by myself but miss my daughter tremendously. I wish that her father had not left her completely but she tried to pretend that it did not hurt her. My other children say that he will never be the same. I don't think he will ever change. He got tremendously mad at me for getting money from court to help support me and our daughter and also for telling him what was found out his lady-friend was doing (you can imagine) while he was seeing her - and he would not believe us so he married her.
Donna