If any one of them sneaks back into your life, take it as a warning to redouble your resolve to stay the course of your recovery.
- Lying. A principal warning sign of relapse is lying to yourself or to others. Remember how you lied when you were a functioning alcoholic: minimizations, distortions of truth, little white lies, boldface lies and denial. Sometimes you even believed your own hype.So, if you are aware you have told your partner a little white lie, recognize it as a slip and take action immediately to correct the situation.
- Blaming. When you blame anyone else for anything, remember that by doing so you are making yourself a victim. And if you are a victim, who can blame you for relapsing into drinking or drugging?So recognize you are on the slippery slope to victimhood and relapse if you notice yourself laying blame rather than taking responsibility.
- Shame. For men there is often shame around not being able to make your partner happy. If you find yourself slipping into these feelings of shame, remind yourself that you are to respect, love and care for your wife. Her happiness or unhappiness comes from within her.
- Euphoria. You are on top of the world and things couldn’t be better. Euphoria often makes a subtle shift into feeling invulnerable. And if you are invulnerable, you could drink or drug or have an affair without consequences. The euphoria of success has been the downfall of many a politician and business leader.So pay attention; you are a human being and therefore always vulnerable. If you find yourself at the pinnacle of success, remember what Buckminster Fuller said: “If you do a good job the great spirit will give you a bigger job.“
It’s up to you to make your life after rehab a magnificent one!