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		<title>New (or Old)  Relationship? Watch your language!</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 14 Feb 2012 20:26:54 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Neill Neill</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[It's hard to build a happy, productive life or a lasting relationship on a complaint. People get tired of their marriages and their friendships. They often feel stuck and sometimes hopeless.  The question is, how do you avoid starting relationships based on a negative focus?]]></description>
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		<title>The Real Cost to Your Marriage of an Affair</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 19 Oct 2011 14:13:47 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Neill Neill</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[People still resort to infidelity as the excuse, often unconscious, to end a difficult relationship.  Many couples, however, choose to stay together after one or both has been unfaithful. So the big question I invite you to ponder is this: can a committed relationship fully recover after infidelity, without long-term costs?]]></description>
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		<title>Can a Lasting Marriage Begin with Online Dating? Try Local First.</title>
		<link>http://www.neillneill.com/online-dating-the-new-entrance-to-a-lasting-marriage</link>
		<comments>http://www.neillneill.com/online-dating-the-new-entrance-to-a-lasting-marriage#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sun, 02 Oct 2011 00:26:31 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Neill Neill</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[What has changed so dramatically in the last few years is the number of men and women who enter committed relationships after meeting their partner online.

Statistics:  The latest figures are that 20 million people per month are engaging in online dating. About 70% of people surveyed said they would use an online dating service to find their partner if they were looking for a relationship. And in a large-scale survey 17% of couples married from 2007 to early 2010 said they had met online.]]></description>
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		<title>Are you in a relationship yet feeling lonely?</title>
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		<comments>http://www.neillneill.com/are-you-in-a-relationship-yet-feeling-alone#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 28 Sep 2011 16:31:53 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Neill Neill</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Life can sneak up on you, and then one day one of you realizes you feel the loneliest you have ever felt. Who among us, except the very young, has not been in that dark place at some time or other?  This leads to the question, is it possible to live your lives in such a way that you can avoid loneliness in a marriage relationship? ]]></description>
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		<title>Marriage Advice: Maintaining Peace in your Marriage</title>
		<link>http://www.neillneill.com/marriage-advice-maintaining-peace-in-your-marriage</link>
		<comments>http://www.neillneill.com/marriage-advice-maintaining-peace-in-your-marriage#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 23 Aug 2011 21:22:56 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Neill Neill</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[When you bond with and commit to a long-term marriage relationship with another human being, you usually start from a place of peace. Both of you are accepted and loved and are interested in the interests, activities and passions of the other. There may be a lot going on, but your relationship is one of peace...20 years...Are you holding back from each other to keep the peace? These are signs, not of peace, but of a truce, a cease-fire...the truce is not a happy place. It may be temporarily practical, but seldom more than an uneasy peace.]]></description>
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		<title>Being in Control of all Aspects of Life</title>
		<link>http://www.neillneill.com/being-in-control-of-all-aspects-of-life</link>
		<comments>http://www.neillneill.com/being-in-control-of-all-aspects-of-life#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 27 Jul 2011 16:08:40 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Neill Neill</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[There are two kinds of control over other people: wisdom-based control and fear-based control.  The most obvious example of wisdom-based control is in child rearing. You are in total control of your infant child. You help your child grow up healthy and confident by controlling their learning environment. You teach through words and example and you often say no...then there is fear-based control...]]></description>
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		<title>When Is a Marriage Beyond Help?</title>
		<link>http://www.neillneill.com/when-is-a-marriage-beyond-help</link>
		<comments>http://www.neillneill.com/when-is-a-marriage-beyond-help#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 17 May 2011 00:34:09 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Neill Neill</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[What is the fail point in a deteriorating marriage? When is a marriage beyond help? The underlying issue often turns out to be that one or both parties do not want to be in the marriage.]]></description>
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		<title>Effective Communication: Listening Vs. Complying</title>
		<link>http://www.neillneill.com/effective-communication-listening-vs-complying</link>
		<comments>http://www.neillneill.com/effective-communication-listening-vs-complying#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 04 May 2011 17:54:30 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Neill Neill</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Communication breaks down when you merge telling and sharing and can't distinguish between the resultant complying and listening, and therefore, seeing them both as listening…or not. Often "he never listens to me" really means "he never does what I want him to do."]]></description>
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		<title>Learn to Take Responsibility and Avoid Marital Problems</title>
		<link>http://www.neillneill.com/learn-to-take-responsibility-and-avoid-marital-problems</link>
		<comments>http://www.neillneill.com/learn-to-take-responsibility-and-avoid-marital-problems#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 23 Feb 2011 16:28:23 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Neill Neill</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Volumes have been written on the importance of taking responsibility. Some of it is psychological, some of it legalistic and much of it moralistic. This article is about taking responsibility for your own emotions, with a focus on marital conflict.]]></description>
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		<title>Marriage Stress, Blame and Alcohol</title>
		<link>http://www.neillneill.com/marriage-stress-blame-and-alcohol</link>
		<comments>http://www.neillneill.com/marriage-stress-blame-and-alcohol#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 02 Feb 2011 19:01:53 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Neill Neill</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Life is full of events that lead to personal distress. And stress can build upon stress which can lead to marriage problems.  If one of  you drinks to reduce stress, in time the drinking itself causes stress and becomes a major roadblock to solutions.

Quite naturally, you look around to see what's causing your distress and the only person there is your spouse, so you instinctively blame him or her for upsetting you.]]></description>
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