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Posted by Dr. Neill Neill
There are two kinds of control over other people: wisdom-based control and fear-based control. The most obvious example of wisdom-based control is in child rearing. You are in total control of your infant child. You help your child grow up healthy and confident by controlling their learning environment. You teach through words and example and you often say no…then there is fear-based control…
Categories: Marriage, Parenting, Self Growth
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Tags: child rearing, controlling, management, Marriage, relationships
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Posted by Dr. Neill Neill
What is the fail point in a deteriorating marriage? When is a marriage beyond help? The underlying issue often turns out to be that one or both parties do not want to be in the marriage.
Categories: Marriage
| Tags: alcohol-abuse, commitment, Marriage, marriage help, relationships
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Posted by Dr. Neill Neill
Communication breaks down when you merge telling and sharing and can’t distinguish between the resultant complying and listening, and therefore, seeing them both as listening…or not. Often “he never listens to me” really means “he never does what I want him to do.”
Categories: Marriage
| Tags: comply, complying, effective communication, listening
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Posted by Dr. Neill Neill
Volumes have been written on the importance of taking responsibility. Some of it is psychological, some of it legalistic and much of it moralistic. This article is about taking responsibility for your own emotions, with a focus on marital conflict.
Categories: Emotional Problems, Marriage
| Tags: anger, emotions, marital conflict, take responsibility, taking responsibility
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Posted by Dr. Neill Neill
Life is full of events that lead to personal distress. And stress can build upon stress which can lead to marriage problems. If one of you drinks to reduce stress, in time the drinking itself causes stress and becomes a major roadblock to solutions.
Quite naturally, you look around to see what’s causing your distress and the only person there is your spouse, so you instinctively blame him or her for upsetting you.
Categories: Alcoholism and Marriage, Marriage, News
| Tags: addiction, alcohol-abuse, blame, distress, love and respect, Marriage, marriage problems
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