A man and woman start chatting one day in the coffee room at the place they both work. They quickly discover that they both hate their jobs. Their instant connection blossoms into an intimate relationship.
You enter into an exclusive, romantic, sexual relationship in good faith. You have the intention of “forever,” in spite of knowing the statistics on marriage casualty. I certainly did, and I completely believed my partner did too… each time. (In July we celebrated the 31st anniversary of our third marriage.)
In the 17th, 18th and 19th centuries, marriages lasted between eight and nine years. That was how long it took on average for one of the partners to die. In the 20th century as people started living longer, divorce gradually replaced death as a way of ending a marriage. Up to 1970 infidelity was the only grounds for divorce in Canada. As that became unworkable, divorce laws were liberalized. At the same time increasing numbers of committed couples simply did not legalize their marriages.
What has changed so dramatically in the last few years is the number of men and women who enter committed relationships after meeting their partner online.
Statistics: The latest figures are that 20 million people per month are engaging in online dating. About 70% of people surveyed said they would use an online dating service to find their partner if they were looking for a relationship. And in a large-scale survey 17% of couples married from 2007 to early 2010 said they had met online…
Most of us have found ourselves at some point in life flying solo. The first time is usually after you have left your family of origin and are out in the world working or studying. You have your coworkers and friends around you and you are busy creating a life for yourself in society. You are alone, but not particularly lonely.
Then you meet someone…