Dr. Neill Neill
Every year each one of us grows older. Some try to avoid this by using every product possible for looking younger. But, what about the knowledge and understanding we have gained through life experiences? Is it more important to look younger or accept the wisdom that comes with age?
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Dr. Neill Neill
There is more to retirement planning than the financial issues. As a psychologist, I see people with avoidable emotional issues. If you incorporate mental health and life legacy goals into your planning as you approach retirement, you can create a happier retirement and a more peaceful marriage.
Sam
Sam retires and is finally "free to not have to get up and go to work every day…"
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Dr Neill Neill
Today I write about happiness, entitlement, achievement and meaning. How do they all connect?
A guest came to visit a Saskatchewan farmer for the first time at his farm. As the visitor took in the expanse of billowing wheat fields that stretched out from the well-maintained family home and farm buildings, he commented to the farmer, "God has been good to you." The farmer replied with a smile, "He certainly has…but you should have seen the place when he was managing it by himself."
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Dr. Neill Neill
There has been much in the news about bed closures in care facilities, new nursing homes opening, and the stress for the elderly of being moved. Many issues should be taken into consideration when deciding if an elder care facility is the right choice.
A mid-eighties couple I know illustrates the latter point. After decades together, failing health has forced her into a care facility. He walks there every day and visits with her for a few hours. If he had to go into care, but couldn’t be with her, or if she were moved to another facility that he couldn’t get to, it would probably kill both of them. Either event would take away the last thing that gives their lives meaning.
The Holocaust and other wartime trauma comes back to haunt the elderly…
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Dr. Neill Neill
Developing communication skills in marriage is a very important step toward maintaining a happy marriage. When you as a couple have taken on a pattern over time of not talking an issue through to some sort of resolution, and you want to change that pattern to save your marriage, what can you do?
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Dr. Neill Neill
The dictionary defines "stonewall" as "to refuse to comply or cooperate." Does your marriage relationship involve stonewalling? Stonewalling is one of the big four deal breakers or marriage-enders.
Liz and Barry went on a one-week trip to Las Vegas. Their much-needed vacation had been in the works for some time. Both got caught up in the carnival atmosphere for a few days, but then Barry went quiet…
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Neill Neill
Just before Valentine’s Day, a magazine ad for a story-writing Contest caught my eye. It was to be a 300-word story about "How did you fall in love." I wrote my personal story, asked my editor (my wife) to check it over, and then sent it in. I entitled it "The Supper."
To my surprise and delight, the story won the prize for the "most serendipitous love story" and was published in the March/April issue of Synergy.
Please have a chuckle with me..
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Neill Neill
Emotional distress, or emotional discomfort as I like to call it, is a sign that something is not right in your life. These are the times when you grow and change the most–usually for the better. The key to making it through difficult times is finding clarity.
Some years ago I had a boss who was obsessed with finding out how "comfortable" people were after each counselling session with me. I told him "I am not in the comfort business. I am in the clarity business." I must admit that I was in a lot of mental/emotional ‘discomfort’ during those arguments with my boss. I was fired less than a year later, bringing even more intense discomfort. I blamed my former boss for everything…
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Neill Neill
Why do you go see a medical doctor, psychologist, chiropractor or other health professional? Most people would answer that they seek help because they have a problem that needs fixing. What is the true problem that needs fixing?
You might go to your chiropractor because your back is hurting after lifting something heavy. You see your doctor because you can’t breathe, because you have chest pains, or because you have a fever. You might seek a psychologist’s help because you are having anxiety attacks, you are fighting with your marriage partner, or you want to get over your alcohol addiction.
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Dr. Neill Neill
There comes a time in life when we all begin to realize that we are not immortal. However, some people seem to live longer. Is there a key to longevity?
I recently attended the memorial service for my friend David. He died in his 87th year. David was a war hero and veteran of the Second World War and the Korean War. He lived a long and productive life, the last 40 years of it with his wife Arlene.
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