Posted by Dr. Neill Neill
It’s vacation time. Two days from now you have about 1 ½ weeks off work. You, your spouse and two teens are heading off on a camping road trip. You find yourself working like crazy to get ready — there are so many details to think of and organize — and you find yourself wondering why you ever agreed to this type of family vacation.
Categories: Parenting, Self Growth
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Tags: family, family vacation, laughter, vacation
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Posted by Dr. Neill Neill
We grow up with the conventional thinking that we will become adults and our parents will grow old and die before we do. Furthermore, our children will grow up to be adults and we will predecease them in old age. Fortunately for most, the flow of life and death follows that pattern. But for some, the sequence and timing get messed up and it takes an emotional and behavioral toll.
Categories: Grieving, Self Growth
| Tags: acceptance, family, flow of life, life, life and death
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Posted by Dr. Neill Neill
I had remarried a couple of years before and was busy at home trying to establish a new consulting business. We had a typical family life with three teenagers at home with lots of distractions and noise; it was often hard to concentrate on my work.
My frustration was showing up in ways that I was barely aware of. One day my wife said to me very calmly, “Neill, it’s bothering the kids how you are snapping at them. If you don’t do something about it, you will end up as a lonely, grouchy old man.”
What hit me was the thought that my family would remember me as a grouch. I could not allow that to be my emotional legacy. The internal shift was instantaneous.
Categories: News, Parenting, Self Growth
| Tags: emotional, emotional legacy, family, family life, legacy, my family
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Posted by Dr. Neill Neill
I have been deeply moved by the depth of despair and confusion you are expressing in your identifying your most important question about alcoholism. I feel your pain. I am also aware of the presence of great moral strength. Here are questions from two women whose struggle is almost universal among women who live with drug and alcohol abuse and addiction…
Categories: Alcoholism and Family
| Tags: addiction, alcohol-abuse, alcoholic, drinking-problem, drug and alcohol abuse, family, functioning alcoholic, Marriage, Neill Neill, relationships
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Posted by Dr. Neill Neill
A parent is grieving for the death of a son a year and a half after he lost another son.
Categories: Grieving, Parenting
| Tags: death-of-a-son, family, Grieving, loss, Parenting
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