New (or Old) Relationship? Watch your language!

It’s hard to build a happy, productive life or a lasting relationship on a complaint. People get tired of their marriages and their friendships. They often feel stuck and sometimes hopeless. The question is, how do you avoid starting relationships based on a negative focus?

Categories: Marriage, Self Growth  |  Tags: complaint, language, marriages, relationships, use language  |  2 comments

The Real Cost to Your Marriage of an Affair

People still resort to infidelity as the excuse, often unconscious, to end a difficult relationship. Many couples, however, choose to stay together after one or both has been unfaithful. So the big question I invite you to ponder is this: can a committed relationship fully recover after infidelity, without long-term costs?

Categories: Marriage  |  Tags: adultery, affair, committed relationship, infidelity, Marriage, relationships  |  2 comments

Can a Lasting Marriage Begin with Online Dating? Try Local First.

What has changed so dramatically in the last few years is the number of men and women who enter committed relationships after meeting their partner online.

Statistics: The latest figures are that 20 million people per month are engaging in online dating. About 70% of people surveyed said they would use an online dating service to find their partner if they were looking for a relationship. And in a large-scale survey 17% of couples married from 2007 to early 2010 said they had met online.

Categories: Marriage  |  Tags: Marriage, marriage relationship, online dating, relationships  |  4 comments

Being in Control of all Aspects of Life

There are two kinds of control over other people: wisdom-based control and fear-based control. The most obvious example of wisdom-based control is in child rearing. You are in total control of your infant child. You help your child grow up healthy and confident by controlling their learning environment. You teach through words and example and you often say no…then there is fear-based control…

Categories: Marriage, Parenting, Self Growth  |  Tags: child rearing, controlling, management, Marriage, relationships  |  2 comments

When Is a Marriage Beyond Help?

What is the fail point in a deteriorating marriage? When is a marriage beyond help? The underlying issue often turns out to be that one or both parties do not want to be in the marriage.

Categories: Marriage  |  Tags: alcohol-abuse, commitment, Marriage, marriage help, relationships  |  3 comments